After getting married we were adjusting to our new life together, and anyone that knows me, is well aware that I have a strong personality. I didn't get married until I was 24, so I had already established my own life. I was comfortable in the way I did things and had a hard time understanding why anyone would do it any differently! Not to mention birth control can make a girl nuts. And if any married man is reading this he will totally agree with me! I was a crazy person. I cried all the time and was on edge constantly, which makes adjusting to a new life even harder. Poor Dal, I was a lot to handle :) But we did it, we just drove over our bumps in the road and continued to love each other. I was so happy!!
And then.... grief hit.
I don't like change. I was already adjusting to a new life when I found out I lost another brother. And it has been hard. I shut down, I cry, and I get mad. But lucky for me I have the best husband in the world. He listens to me when I am mad, he holds me when I am sad, and he tries to understand what I am going through. Grief is something that I could let take over me and potentially destroy my marriage if I let it. But instead of pushing Dal away, I try to remember I need to let him in. He is my partner in life, my forever, and I know he is the person that will help me get through grief. I am grateful for him taking this journey with me, because today I am not the same girl he married 10 months ago. I am different, I have changed, but we will continue to walk side by side, hand in hand and push forward. Because together we can do anything.
If you are married. Appreciate your spouse. Tell him/her you love them. Love their strengths and their weaknesses. Always keep them in your heart, and a priority in your life. Life is too short to take people for granted.
If you are single. Wait for the right guy/girl. I promise you will find them. It may take longer than you wanted, and it may not be exactly what you expected, but it will be way better than you could have ever imagined. You deserve the best. Don't sell yourself short, lower your standards, or take anything less than what you deserve. Demand respect. And don't waste time fighting for people who aren't fighting for you, because I promise you, there is that one person that would sprint to the finish line if you were there waiting for them. Wait. Be patient and wait for the best. You will know when you find him. Trust your gut and follow your heart! That is what I did, and I ended up with the most amazing man. I mean just look at him! :)
