If you haven’t ever experienced grief let me let you in on a
little insight. Right after the tragedy
occurs everyone is knocking on your door, calling, texting, offering to
help. It is so incredibly thoughtful and
it helps a lot, however during this point in time, you are numb. You feel so
numb and are in disbelief that this actually happened. So therefore we don’t always accept the help.
This continues until after the funeral services have finished. Then everyone goes back to their normal
lives. Everyone returns back to work, gets back into their normal routine and
the calls, texts, and helping hands diminish.
The world doesn’t stop. It keeps going like nothing ever
happened.
There are days where I sit and stare into space because of
the pain I feel, I have days where I feel so broken that I wonder if I even
know how to love anymore, and then there are days where for a split second I
forget what my reality actually is, and can feel a glimpse of happiness.
So what do I do? I take my life day by day. Some days I cry, some days I laugh, and some
days I feel nothing at all. But each day
I try. I try to be stronger than I was the day before, even if it is just a
little bit.
What can you do? Call a friend, or lend a helping hand, because
I promise you that the people you love need you more now than they did when
the tragedy initially happened. Whether
it has been one month, one year, or even ten, reach out. Because I can promise
you this... the pain of losing a loved one never goes away. It isn’t something you get over, and it isn’t
something you overcome. It is just
something you adjust too. You adjust to
your new reality, you adjust to your new family dynamic, and you adjust to the
new you, because you are never the same again.
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